Communication between parents and children, especially teens, is often an area of concern for families. Because of advances in technology, one can argue that the landscape has changed dramatically since the 1960s, the 1980s and even from the early 2000s.

While the mode of communications is different, there are some things that are the same today as they were in 1988. It’s what is said and how it is said. The following ideas were offered by gifted and talented students at Madison (Wisconsin) schools and shared by the UW-Extension Office.

Remember that we’re almost adults and don’t need to be talked down to.

Be honest with us. Sooner or later we will find out the truth. Besides, if we know the truth, we can help instead of being part of the problem.

Tell us you love us—even if we act like we don’t want to hear it. A hug or a pat on the back is always a nice bonus.

Praise us when we do OK. Sometimes it seems like nothing we do is enough.

Skip the lectures, please. A word or two and a check to see if we understand the message is enough. Most of us know we’ve made a mistake long before you talk to us about it anyway.

Don’t yell. Nothing makes us want to fight back more than being shouted or screamed at.

When we need help, give it to us — OK? We don’t need to be told that we really blew it this time, that you would never have made that sort of mistake, or that our brother or sister would never have done it.

We need help finding a way out of the mess, not a lecture that we’re in trouble. We already know that part.

Don’t pressure us to achieve all the time. We do our best, but we also get tired. Remind us from time to time to slow down and be a kid. We can’t always make the goals you’ve set for us. Some of them are too far off the ground.

Let us know that you’ll love us even if we don’t live up to your expectations. Let us know that you’ll always be there for us, no matter what.

If we do have a major problem, help us solve it, don’t solve it for us, or we’ll never learn how to function as adults.

Let us form our own opinions about some things. Chances are they’ll be a lot like yours if you’ve brought us up right.

If we’ve got a collective problem, hear us out first before assuming you’re right and we’re wrong.

Give us a chance to disagree with you without telling us that we’re “talking back.” We need to develop that part of our communication system, too.

If you’re angry, mad, sad, or whatever, tell us so we don’t say or do the wrong thing. The last thing we want to do is make the situation worse.

Don’t bring up the same issue over and over again. Getting told off once is usually enough.

We love to hear about when we were little and we like to hear about your teenage years as well. Don’t use those stories just to teach us a lesson or make a point about how good we have it. The stories are fun just by themselves.

Never stop talking to us. You are the ones we count on the most for reassurance and love.

We can all improve the way we talk so others will listen. And, listen so others will talk.

I’ll bet a lot of parents and grandparents are sitting somewhere right now wondering if the above list of “tips for better communications” can be adapted to today’s world of texting where nearly all communications happen via smartphones.

These tips also assume the young people, and most of the adults, have a lot of common sense, and patience. I’m not sure we can assume that!

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Was anyone else caught off guard a month ago when North and South Korea struck an accord to allow their athletes to march together behind a unified flag at the Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang? It is not the first time, they did it in 2002 at the Asian Games in Busan, South Korea.

I thought the two countries were such mortal enemies, and that the relations between the two were so strained, that something like this wouldn’t happen.

South Korean President Moon Jae-in urged North Korea to participate saying it was an opportunity to lessen tensions, which could lead to broader agreements in the future. If the two Koreas can put their differences aside, maybe there is hope for bipartisanship in Washington, D.C.?

Negotiators from both countries said they want this accord to work. North Korea will send a small team of athletes, a much larger delegation of musicians, a cheering squad and a sizeable security detail.

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It’s not as trivial as the latest publicity stunt from the Kardashian empire but the May 19 wedding of Prince Harry of Wales, 33, and Rachel Meagan Markle, 36, the American actress, has certainly captivated the tabloid media industry.

The couple will be married at St. George’s Chapel, Windsor Castle, and will be broadcast around the world. Harry is fifth in line to the British Throne. It is Markle’s second marriage.

Royal weddings are a huge undertaking and no detail is too small to be covered ad nauseum. Maybe we need more events like this and fewer scandalous stories from Washington?